Deborah Oyine Aluh

We`ve all had to make critical decisions at some point in our lives—those life-defining forks in the road. But what if we had chosen the other option? Do you ever wonder what life you`d be living now if you had made different choices in life?

The road not taken often leads us to ponder the various paths we could have taken. Where would you be if you had made a different career choice or gotten a different degree? What if you had chosen a different partner? Or what if you had decided not to move to another city or country? Life is full of endless possibilities, and it is almost impossible not to wonder about the different outcomes that could have unfolded. The road not taken is a constant reminder that life is a journey of choices and each decision we make shapes our present and future.

It may seem that only regret or dissatisfaction with one’s current life makes one contemplate the road not taken. However, this may not necessarily be the case. The road not taken serves as a metaphorical symbol representing untapped potential, as well as the array of possibilities beyond our current reality. Exploring the road not taken can be an invitation to question, ponder, and daydream. By contemplating alternate lives and different choices, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our desires. The exploration of these alternative scenarios allows us to embrace the complexities of life and appreciate the journey we are currently on.

On the other hand, over-contemplation of the path not taken may lead to losing out on the present. There seems to be some allure in the mystery of the road not taken. It is human nature to be captivated by what could have been, especially when we seemingly “clearly see” the outcomes of the path we have chosen. The truth is that the grass always seems greener on the other side. Our desire for novelty and the unknown often paints a romanticized picture of what could have been, disregarding the reality of our current situation. As we gaze longingly at the possibilities we didn’t pursue, we risk losing sight of the opportunities and blessings that surround us in the present. Moreover, over-contemplation of the road not taken can lead to excessive second-guessing and hesitation. Constantly questioning our choices can make us trapped in a cycle of indecision and miss out on the potential joy and fulfillment that our current path has to offer.

If your thoughts about the path not taken stem from regrets, remember to be kind to yourself and understand that every decision brings its own set of challenges and opportunities. You can reflect on why you chose the path you did, you probably had good reasons based on the information you had at that time. It may also be helpful to seek other perspectives from friends and family. They may help you see other angles and possible values in the path you chose. Ultimately, it is more fruitful to contemplate what to do to make your current path more aligned with your values and aspirations, especially with the experience you’ve learned along the way.

The path not taken will always be shrouded in mystery and what-ifs, but the path we choose to walk is where our story unfolds. It is where we find growth, resilience, love, and the unique tapestry of experiences that make us who we are.   We must invest our hearts and our energy in the road we tread now and in the vibrancy of the present. After all, at the end of our days, we will not regret the roads we did not take, but we will cherish the memories we made, the people we loved, and the life we lived—fully and deeply—on the road we chose.

I leave you with the popular poem by Robert Frost.

The road not taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;


Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,


And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.


I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

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4 Responses

  1. ‘Indeed the part not taken is always always shrouded in mystery but the part we choose to walk is where our story unfolds”
    Another brilliant master piece, thanks Debbie

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